"Between the man and the woman a child had hollowed himself out a place and fallen asleep. He turned in his slumber, and in the dim lamplight I saw his face. What an adorable face! A golden fruit had been born of these two peasants….. This is a musician’s face, I told myself. This is the child Mozart. This is a life full of beautiful promise. Little princes in legends are not different from this. Protected, sheltered, cultivated, what could not this child become? When by mutation a new rose is born in a garden, all gardeners rejoice. They isolate the rose, tend it, foster it. But there is no gardener for men. This little Mozart will be shaped like the rest by the common stamping machine…. This little Mozart is condemned."
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
I’ve been a massage therapist for many years, now. I know what people look like. People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.
Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. And that’s very appealing too.
Woman have cellulite. All of them. It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks. Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say — what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.
I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
Think about who you are beneath the skin.
In the most fundamental space you occupy, who are you? Write it down.
We all need to be reminded that who we are is a fluid constancy, divorced from the form we are in.
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To catch you up on current events, the House Republicans are currently lying on the floor, holding their breath, and turning blue, in a last ditch effort to get someone to make the Affordable Care Act (A/K/A Obamacare) go away. What terrifies them is not the idea that the program will fail, but that, in fact, it will succeed. And the thought of working people, children, and the poor having health coverage makes them panicky for some reason.
To that end, the Tea Party noise machine has done everything it can to spread misinformation about the law, prevent it from being implemented, and block the government from providing basic information about how the Affordable Care Act works. This is a familiar tactic from other recent political battles: frantically cut the legs out from under the law at the legislative level, then scream that it obviously doesn’t work, and try to have it eliminated.
Here are the facts the hissy-fit crew don’t want you to know:
If you have insurance, you keep it. Nothing changes.
If you apply for insurance, and you have a preexisting condition, most insurers can no longer deny you coverage.
If you can’t afford insurance, the government will help you pay.
Your insurance coverage, whatever it is - whether it is supplied by your employer, or you go and get it yourself in the new health insurance marketplaces - will help pay for everything from preventative care, to doctor’s visits, to prescriptions. Because working people shouldn’t be one accident or illness away from bankruptcy. This is a simple matter of decency and social fairness. I am confused why anyone thinks otherwise.
Some people worry if they don’t get insurance, they will go to jail. This is a falsehood. However, in 2014, if you do not have health insurance, you have to get some, or pay a fee. And you say: but why do I need health insurance?? I’m not sick and I don’t need medical care! But if you get hit by a drunk driver, you will need care. Or if you slip on the ice. Or if you’re diagnosed with a malignant tumor. Everyone is in the health care market… ill health is an inevitable part of the human existence.
Don’t worry signing up will be hard! Help finding a plan is available.
The ACA means your insurer cannot drop you just because you get sick. It also means insurers cannot set arbitrary limits on how much they will spend on your care each year. Need more care? Get more money.
The ACA protects your choice of doctors, and makes sure your children can stay on your health plan until they’re 26. It guarantees your right to appeal if your insurer tries to dick you out of your fair coverage.
Guess what else? The money you’re spending on insurance? The insurance companies now face an 80/20 requirement, meaning that they have to spend 80% of what they make on health care, not on marketing, or administration, or other happy-crappy. Now they have to do less selling, more doing.
There’s a lot more to learn, if you want - all the facts are right here - but there is no reason to be afraid of the law. The goal is to protect families from the worst: the debilitating illness that wipes them out financially and closes the door to opportunity.
For creative people, the ACA is probably the best thing to happen in decades. I can’t tell you how many comic book creators are one sickness from having everything swept away. The creative class has been one of the great engines of the American economy, and in that way, the Republican attack on the Affordable Care Act is an attack on what America does best: invent and create.
Again: all the information you need, including how to sign up, is right here. Take a few minutes and get some facts for yourself. You won’t need more than a few minutes - this is simple, not hard, and a positive, not a negative.
By all means, reblog this post. It’s important for people to get good information. You can help by passing along the essential facts.
#Man_of_Steel - saw it last night with my loving wife, in IMAX 3D of course. To me, this was the best telling of#Kal-El's story so far. The #Krypton back story was awesome, and the darker, grittier, more human story of Clark on Earth felt more grounded. But I especially loved how the CGI has caught up with the way this story should be shown. His speed and power was so physical that I believed it more than in previous versions. Plus,#Zod was just menacing and vicious, instead of laughable. There was only one eye roll moment for me, and it was inspired by a supremely poorly timed kiss. 4.5/5
My son, posing for pics with the cat
I was raised by my mom, for the most part. A strong, independent woman who has never been anything but awesome.
She taught me to show respect to women by doing “gentlemanly” things - opening doors, walking on the outside of the sidewalk, taking no for no, that sort of thing. I don’t know if this makes me part of the patriarchy or not. I don’t know if that takes away my mom’s feminist card, so to speak, or not, since her way of raising me makes me this way. Most importantly, I don’t know if I’m continuing a negative trait or positive trait by teaching my son to treat women the way I do, with respect and deference, but not to think of them as weaker in any way.
I was in the USAF for 8 years. I knew many female soldiers who were stronger than me in a lot of ways - primarily in their struggle for equality, something I, being white and male, never had to struggle for. But, a lot of them were also cherry-picking their equality - picking the things they wanted to have the same, while also accepting things that were different when it benefited them in some way. Is it bad that I noticed their hypocrisy? Is it bad that I expect my daughter to accept equality 100%, not cherry-pick it? If she joins the military, I expect her to get her hair shaved off, be held to the same physical standards, and brave enemy fire - is that wrong? Does that make me an instrument of the patriarchy?
I despise the rape culture and what it’s done to women - the self-esteem issues, the sexual issues, the fear issues, and probably a lot of other issues I’ll never fully understand - it just make me ill in my heart to think that my children will have to face them.
I want to understand feminism and patriarchy so that I can ensure the generation that I am personally responsible for will do the right thing when they start their own next generation, and that they’ll be less confused when they do.
I base all of my facts on the things the invisible gnome who lives in my back yard has told me.
Every argument I have leads back to Gnome, for Gnome is Truth.
Proof of Gnome automatically disqualifies itself because Gnome is unknowable and requires faith in Gnome before Gnome will reveal itself.
Now, try to win any argument with me, or better yet, Prove Gnome doesn’t exist.